I'm not the guy with the problem. You meant to respond to the OP.
I would not discount this possibility. She may not want a husband, or any more kids. Shew might just want the fun when you're together. This is actually exactly what happened with the first of my gf's described earlier. She tried really really hard to want to marry me, but she ended up just wanting to be friends with benefits basically.
I think you better move on. You don't really seem to get it when it comes to the children. It's not about you, it's about them. I don't want to seem harsh, but albeit only a post here, I am getting the impression that you aren't mature enough at this stage of your life to take on a family. That's not a slam, because most guys your age aren't ready for a family. But that's what it's all about, family and how you assimilate to their lives, not vice versa.
That's a great line "Smash and Dash" Kind of like "Hit and Run" without a car. Someone once told me if you are sitting at a bar and an incredibly good looking women sits next to you one of three things should come to mind. 1. She is a terrible judge of men. 2. She must have really pissed off some other guy (in this case two guys) 3. It was the only seat at the bar left! It all leads to the same decision. Smash and dash! Sorry it's just the cynical me talking.
She's got crazy eyes...and if you don't know what those are, watch How I Met Your Mother. I may be kidding...I'll let you know when I get to her eyes.
I still haven't made it to the eyes yet. Total freak too and as a single guy in my late 20's I don't think I can be blamed too much for going into it without the purest of intentions. The fun bags hypnotized me so I deflect all responsibility
Oh come on man i never claimed to be a saint. Sure of course I need to grow up but that's why i asked for advice. Nothing forces you to grow up faster than commitment and responsibilities and it's all a matter of whether you're in it for the right reasons or not
B.S. in Economics at UP lol not quite smeal but not basket weaving either
Don't get forced to grow up. I believe you won't have these questions when you're with the right one.
You guys are the ones requested one I had no plans of uploading before that. Yes I have a lot of growing up to do still, I don't have any responsibilities besides work so I haven't had to really yet. That doesn't mean I don't want to be an actual adult and be a responsible man someday. I care about this person and didn't think much before getting involved about the circumstances and now that I do want to grow up and take it serious it's forcing me to think about the circumstances and make a decision.
She's the right one...at least for me. I've dated a lot of women and usually don't take them all that seriously or get too attached, but this one broke tradition. If someone makes you want to become a better person and happy then that's all that counts. My only need for advice was not because I was afraid of the kids and such, but because I truly do want to become a father someday(my own)..i think I'd be okay with helping to raise someone else's kids for the right person as long as I could have my own eventually and get to experience that. I had a great father and I I want nothing more than to emulate him. But if she doesn't want anymore kids Im pretty sure I would never be happy no matter how perfect the person was because being a dad someday to me is more important than finding the right person. Everyone has baggage I'm not exactly prince charming so I need to be realistic as well
Father- biologic sperm donor
