petty pathetic how this board passes this off as nothing. Just a punch!. Let's make a big deal over outpatient versus hospital. Do you really understand how serious this could have been?
I'll tell you how serious. In March, my son had a small verbal argument (with somebody he knew). My son grabs a beer and offers it to him as a peace offering. The guy knocks the beer out of his hand and punched him twice in the head.
One of the punches caused a brain bleed, and he died on the spot. The perp is facing involuntary manslaughter charges and a minimum of eight years in jail.
Four months later, and you have no idea how tough every day is!
Nothing to it, right? No big deal. The 'frat boy' probably deserved it, right?
Yes, I was in fights in my younger days, but anyone dismissing this as nothing because you want him on the field is pathetic!
Mike W 31- I've lost a 23 year old brother in law in a bar fight when someone hit him over the head with a pool cue and my freshman daughter at college to a bizarre medical condition that was diagnosed as "flu like symptoms" but then overcame her body in 24 hours. She died in her dorm bed.
I know and feel your pain. Life does become a form of living hell- regardless of the circumstances of the rest of your family and excistence. But there are some coping mechanisms which have helped us. The first is: whatever works for you is ok. My wife and I are on very different paths on how we have handled these situations, and that is alright.
Secondly. See your doctors. You are at exveptionally high risk of internal or external harm. You brain is not working. You'll look back and have no clue. My bride fell down the steps breaking 15 bones in her face, lost teeth, concussed more than anold NFL player and is frankly lucky to be alive. My blood pressure- which had NEVER/EVER been an issue and I spiked. Luckily I work in a school, got daily BP checks, and when the condition was apparent, proper medical help. Depression is very real, cannot be "toughed out", and is something that ypur physician can help your explore.
Many recommended The Compassionate Friends and eventually that group helped us bridge the early years. We soon took some friends we made from there and have done our own thing as the formal meetings can be rough when new "members" arrive. As a teacher I felt the need to help and educate, however my wife is an empath and the emotions were just more than she could handle. So many stories, like yours, are just tragic loss.
I'm not sure how the direct messaging works here- but early in my public Board life a dude from Baltimore who is unfortunately in our sad ass club offered get in touch- I regret not taking him up on that. If you know I'm willing.
We just hit the 5 year mark, and there is some clearing from the fog. Things will never be "great" again, but there is a new reality that we have been forced to embrace. There is hope for occasionally sunny days- like today when we celebrated my wife's 60th birthday in New Hope. We didn't all sit around and think about the empty chair for the first time. Losing your child is the most complex mindf_ck and the worst form of torture. Anyone who says they "can't imagine" is 100% correct.
Sincere condolences and blessings. It takes one to know one, and I'm with you. Whenever....if ever...you think I could provide even the smallest bit of assistance I'm ready.