Since there is a long way until that decision is made, I suggest you dial back the expectations a bit.
And I had a ton of parents like what you described....in fact most of my parents were supportive and helpful and pretty much all of the kids I coached were respectful and coachable and a lot of fun to be around. The parents that weren’t helpful were the ones with unrealistic expectations (apparently like you) or thought their kids had “athletic prowess” (also like you).
Oy. My boys' coaches and program director talk up my boys more than I do. I'm the grounded one. They've produced a lot of DI prospects/signees, and they're already in my ear about the recruitment process, and making contacts and the such, while I'm telling them to pump the brakes. That doesn't mean I don't realistically agree with their assessments ... it's just that I don't want us to get ahead of ourselves with presuming too much, given all the things that could change between now and then (lack of physical development, injury, loss of interest, etc.). I also want them to enjoy the ride, if that's where all this takes them. But that's the path they're on. Don't worry, chief, I have this under control. There's a way for reasonable people to understand current trajectory, potential roadblocks and managing expectations. Folks who are limited in thought (apparently like you), are the ones who don't understand this.