How about that for all catholics whom support the church and the egregious institutionalized pedophilia that I was a victim to? EABOD's your righteousness . Can't bring yourself to can you ?
Kick, first of all, I'm sorry to hear of your terrible experience and don't blame you for being bitter.
Now that said, there are some points that need to be made here:
The man who victimized you betrayed not only you but also the Church. The crime he committed was a grotesque offense against the laws of God...and the Church.
Bitterness is one thing, but your suggestion that people like me couldn't bring themselves to acknowledge these crimes is ridiculous and outrageous. In fact, many Catholics -- I was one -- were in the forefront of those condemning the Judas priests in question and those bureaucrat Bishops who tried to cover up the whole mess.
We also demanded accountability and punishment, which was delivered to a great number of offenders but to the Bishops: not so much. Furthermore, we understood and loudly stated -- we are still stating in fact -- that the Church would never get beyond this crisis until the roots of faithlessness were exposed and torn out.
Regarding "roots of faithlessness," there's a critical thing to understand here: the scandal was not in fact rooted in "pedophilia" but rather in active homosexuality on the part of faithless priests. The large majority of victims were in fact post-pubescent males.
I should also emphasize that the vast majority of priests were and are good men. I served as an altar boy for five different priests while growing up and not once saw anything untoward. I later went to a Jesuit college with many priests on the faculty, and they were all exemplary. Of course they all ended up getting tarred by a small minority of scumbags who should never have been ordained.
Lastly, I want to share with you a letter that my wife and I wrote to Archbishop Lori (Baltimore) a few years ago during the disgusting McCarrick chapter of the scandals. The letter had some impact and ended up being circulated to a number of priests in the diocese:
Dear Archbishop Lori,
We write to convey some thoughts on your homily titled "Accountability For All A Must," which was dated July 30 and published on the archdiocesan website.
We are long-time parishioners of Sacred Heart of Glyndon, parents of six (to include a Poor Clare nun), grandparents of 19 (and counting), and people who have tried to build their lives around the Catholic faith and Church teaching.
We appreciate the sentiments expressed in your homily and thank you for sharing them with your flock.
However, with all due respect, Your Excellency, in our humble view: It's not enough.
While your mournful tone is indeed in keeping with the grave nature of the subject matter, there's one emotion conspicuously missing -- and we note that it's been similarly missing from various recent letters to the faithful on the part of bishops addressing the issue of (former) Cardinal McCarrick, the latest face of the scandal that never seems to end.
The emotion we speak of is righteous anger. The kind demonstrated by Jesus when he overturned the tables of the moneychangers in the Temple 2,000 years ago.
As it is, reading the text of your homily and the letters of the other bishops, one gets the sense that the words are drawn from the same talking points, composed by lawyers and public relations people. That being the case, there is a certain bloodless and unconvincing quality to them.
Personally, Your Excellency, we're pretty angry. We have reason to be. So do you. So does anyone in authority truly wanting to find out who knew what and when with respect to McCarrick. And how many other McCarricks are still out there, in high places or low.
Furthermore, we think the emphasis on pedophilia and crimes against minors, as despicable as those crimes are, is misplaced and perhaps even a device to divert attention from the larger problem, which it seems to us the bishops have no interest in confronting.
The problem we refer to is a widespread environment of homosexuality within the priesthood and, correspondingly, widespread violations of vows of celibacy that are tolerated or approved by those in authority.
Please understand: We're not talking about men who, from human weakness, fail and fall and sincerely repent. God knows, weakness is the human condition, and we are all subject to it. Rather, we're talking about a mindset that holds the Commandments to be somehow optional and the moral law only selectively applicable.
The point is, this pattern of sexual misconduct and the mindset underlying it have created a culture of corruption and lies within the Church, and the abuse of minors, horrific though it be, is but an inevitable outgrowth of that culture. It is the proverbial tip of the iceberg.
Your Excellency, sexually active priests and those in authority who condone such behavior or themselves engage in it (Exhibit A: McCarrick) are living a grotesque lie. Those lies are devastating the Church. This catastrophic scandal, which is robbing people of their faith and their souls, will not end until the lying ends.
Thank you sincerely for your time and attention,
(Names)