One problem is Jay collected a paycheck essentially from his father. Calling his coaching, work, would be very generous, since Jay did very little actual coaching, recruiting or the preparatory work involved in coaching. Jay liked to call plays, his lack of preparation resulted in him not being very good at it.
I have coached youth sports for the last 20 years, from ages 5 to 18, rec, club, high school with a variety of sports. Some simple advice for parents regarding any activity, be honest about your child's ability and interest level. If the kid will not practice on their own, their is no need to invest/spend a lot of money on the activity.
Two extreme examples. First kid, parents spent serious money on soccer, playing all over the country. This kid would spend hours every day kicking a soccer ball without being told. They have holes in their walls from her kicking a soccer ball in the house. I have known this kid since kindergarten, coached with her mom for five years and currently coach her in track. She will be playing D1 soccer, with athletic and academic aid, going to college for free. Obviously, it was well worth it.
The other kid played lacrosse for a former assistant coach of mine. One game he did not play a boy on his team. Kid's parents are going nuts on the sideline and start to ream the coach out after the game. The coach told the parents "You need to talk to your son about playing lacrosse". What happened was the kid refused to go into the game, hated lacrosse and was only there because dad wanted him to be there. Obviously in this case, the parents should have listened to their child.
I never forced my kids to play sports (all 3 played to varying ages, only one played in high school). I would tell parents I know what it is like to coach a kid who did not want to be there. It is not fair to the coaches, teammates or the kid who does not want to be there.